Elfin Bride
Dear Miss Phoebe,
I need some relationship advice please. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we have a house together and are due to get married next June.
I have recently discovered that he has run up several large debts that he doesn’t believe he can pay off. I offered to take the money out of the mortgage to pay off his debts, as long as he was willing to put the money back.
Since then, I’ve had several blackouts, waking up to him staring at me demanding to know where I’ve been and who I’ve been with. I don’t remember anything, but I’m certain that these episodes are related to his debts.
Do you have any advice you can offer me?
- Not a Party Girl
Dear Party Girl,
Blacking out, no memory? And after all those debts have been “paid off”? Sounds like to me you’re sleepwalking, likely due to the stress that his irresponsible spending is doing to your mortgage.
First off, see a doctor. Then get yourselves some couples counseling. If that doesn’t work, put some salt in your pockets and make sure the elves aren’t spiriting you away each night as part of the payoff. (Just kidding, but seriously. Doctor, then counseling. )
– Miss Phoebe