Friend in Need
Dear Miss Phoebe,
My friend (And Maid of Honor) has been off the dating scene since I’ve known her. She’s a wonderful, outgoing girl with a passionate sense of fun. But she never goes out, it’s always work, or something else comes up.
I’ve tried to set her up with male friends of my fiancé in the past, but she usually begs off. Often citing work as the excuse.
I work with her, we have the same job, and yet I find myself with a lot of spare time. Yet, I want her to be happy, a lot of times she seems like she’s hiding from herself, and others.
Frustrated by Redheads
Dear Frustrated,
It sounds to me that your friend is having trouble relating to other people. Perhaps you’re introducing her to the wrong “type”?
Are you even certain that she’s into men? Could the work excuse be a way to politely avoid coming out of the closet?
Or, it could be that she’s content to stay single for the time being. Or even, she’s seeing someone and hasn’t told you yet.
There’s a lot of reasons people avoid relationships, it could be any number of things.
However, I wouldn’t fret. Usually when someone is avoiding relationship it’s for a good reason.
I wouldn’t push men at her right now. Give her a few months of space, and perhaps, if she’s still acting anti-social, suggest an group outing. Or even a girls night out. There’s plenty of places in the city that a couple of women can get into trouble without their men.
– Miss Phoebe