Spinning her Wheels
Dear Miss Phoebe,
I have been going out with my boyfriend for two years now, and I need some advice about our relationship.
In our first year we never argued or rowed and now we can’t seem to stop.
I found out that he cheated on me in the first couple of months of our relationship. His excuse was that he wasn’t certain if he loved me then. Now he says that he loves me and would never stray. Recently I feel like I’m over reacting at a lot of little things, then take it out on him. For example, he likes to see his friends on the weekends, he always takes me with him, but sometimes I just want some alone time, talking to him about this almost always devolves into a huge row.
I feel like I may be wasting my life on a relationship which isn’t going anywhere.
Help?
Confused but Not Alone
Dear Confused,
Arguments like this show that you do love this man, and have a lot of passion to argue so much and stick by him. Either you’re completely off your trolley, or the sex is amazing.
Your best bet is to sit down with your man well before the next weekend with his friends, and have it out with him. Plan a romantic weekend, buy yourself something sexy, and let him make the choice between you and a weekend alone, or hanging out with his mates.
Depending on his decision, you’ll have your answer, and you might just find a way to direct that passion into something other than an argument.
– Miss Phoebe